About Leah Carey

Hi, I’m Leah Carey.

I work with people who were brought up to be “good girls” release old-fashioned beliefs about what is “normal”, so they can identify and advocate for their true sexual pleasure and satisfaction. 

This work was not an obvious life choice for me.

As a child I learned to be a VERY “good girl” to avoid my father’s ridicule and abusive behavior: bring home perfect grades; be intelligent but don’t speak my mind; always be polite and kind; take care of everyone else’s needs before my own. By the time I went to college, I was well-schooled in how to be a “good girl,” but had no idea how to choose an appropriate partner or build a loving, trusting relationship. I got involved in a series of emotionally abusive relationships, always convinced that I was the problem – not pretty enough, smart enough, or sexually skilled enough to attract anyone I would be interested in. I believed that I needed to take whatever I could get and be grateful for it – even if it made my insides crumble. Even worse: I wasn’t having pleasure during sex, so I was sure I was broken. At age 26, my father died, releasing me to begin healing myself as a person. But my sexuality was still a closed door. At age 42, my mom died, and for the first time the door opened: I was no longer held by strings of the family mythology of the “good girl,” and I could finally move beyond that identity. I went on an extended solo road trip around the United States that turned into a journey of sexual healing and evolution. It turned out that there were some basic concepts and skills that I had never learned while perfecting my “good girl” routine – and those skills and concepts make all the difference. I dove headfirst into classes on consent, boundaries, sexual communication, and more, while also pursuing opportunities for sexy experiences I had never allowed myself to have before.