Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They’ve covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They’re now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship.
People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, bottoms up, laugh, cry, and eventually achieve perfect sex. But what if your life feels pretty perfect without it?
Talk about coming full circle: when your friends-with-benefits from age 12 comes back around to become your life partner and make your deepest taboo fantasies come true.
Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as “F.” For much of their life, they imagined that “F” stood for “Failure” to be properly “Female.” Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing.
How can kink un-kink you? Cate talks about using kink as therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Also: the unseen effects ADHD can have on your sex life.
What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex?
Brenda grew up in a “sex silent” household and transitioned right into purity culture. For a naturally highly sexual person, this spelled dysfunction and disaster.
Tori grew up in purity culture, learning what she didn’t want: a life with more shame than sex, and strict gender roles.
Tammy shares how American Jewish culture shaped her expectations and led her into situations that were unhealthy and even dangerous.
Karin lives with cerebral palsy. She talks about learning to appreciate her body and seeing herself as worthy of pleasure.