I loved the double-ended dildo – Stevie

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They’ve covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They’re now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship.

Romance and sex aren’t the same thing – Kristen

People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, bottoms up, laugh, cry, and eventually achieve perfect sex. But what if your life feels pretty perfect without it? 

I trained to be a dominatrix – Rain Dove

Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as “F.” For much of their life, they imagined that “F” stood for “Failure” to be properly “Female.” Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing.

ADHD and your orgasm – Catieosaurus

How can kink un-kink you? Cate talks about using kink as therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Also: the unseen effects ADHD can have on your sex life.

Dating while pregnant – Tammy

Tammy shares how American Jewish culture shaped her expectations and led her into situations that were unhealthy and even dangerous.