All Episodes

I trained to be a dominatrix – Rain Dove
Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as “F.” For much of their life, they imagined that “F” stood for “Failure” to be properly “Female.” Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing.

He pinned me down and fingered me
Leah talks about what’s been going on and where she’s been. Then, a deep dive into whether not saying “no” is the same as assault.

Thick thighs save lives – Leah
Having trouble loving your body? In our culture that’s normal, no matter your shape or size.

‘Fat’ is not a feeling – HAI
Did you know when you say “I feel fat” it’s actually code for something much deeper?

What if “The One” isn’t enough? – Michelle
What happens when you discover the reason you’ve never been interested in sex is that you’ve been having the wrong kind of sex for your body? And that the mismatch at the root of your loving-but-sexless marriage is that your spouse doesn’t want that kind of sex?

How I ended up on Dan Savage’s Savage LoveCast
Leah shares how she ended up appearing as a featured guest on the #1 sex and relationship advice podcast Savage LoveCast, and why it is such a big deal for her.

ADHD and your orgasm – Catieosaurus
How can kink un-kink you? Cate talks about using kink as therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Also: the unseen effects ADHD can have on your sex life.

You do you, but you should also be doing me! – Liz
What happens when a partner is so intent on self-pleasure that they ignore our need to be pleasured as well?

Am I asexual if I still want to kiss people? – Alice
Is it normal to want to date without hook-ups? And what if you don’t even know who you want to date?

Exploring anal play – Julia
How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see.