People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, bottoms up, laugh, cry, and eventually achieve perfect sex. But what if your life feels pretty perfect without it?
Talk about coming full circle: when your friends-with-benefits from age 12 comes back around to become your life partner and make your deepest taboo fantasies come true.
What happens when you discover the reason you’ve never been interested in sex is that you’ve been having the wrong kind of sex for your body? And that the mismatch at the root of your loving-but-sexless marriage is that your spouse doesn’t want that kind of sex?
What happens when a partner is so intent on self-pleasure that they ignore our need to be pleasured as well?
Is it normal to want to date without hook-ups? And what if you don’t even know who you want to date?
How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see.
What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex?
Joy talks about taboo territory like incest porn, being HSV-2 positive, and trying out “water sports.”
Brenda grew up in a “sex silent” household and transitioned right into purity culture. For a naturally highly sexual person, this spelled dysfunction and disaster.
Kay is our youngest guest yet, and she lets us in on how her generation is exploring sex differently because they’re the first with easy access to p*rn. She has dated people of multiple genders, and realized she loves all bodies. Despite her young…