In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Trystan Reese, a transgender white man in a monogamous gay marriage who is 35 years old. In 2017, Trystan gave birth to a baby conceived with his husband Biff. Their story has been shared in People Magazine, CNN, Cosmo and more. You can find them online at

While Trystan has been living as a man for the past 15 years, he was raised and socialized as a female for his first 18 years. That gives him an intimate understanding of both sides of the gender spectrum – including insight into which aspects are biological or hormonal and which are societal.

Here are some of the great moments he shared with us:

  • 10:20 – The conversations gay men have BEFORE they start dating that other couples don’t (but should!) have
  • 17:35 – An important thing we can learn from Trystan’s strategy of revealing that he’s trans
  • 21:30 – Why our relationship to our body is more important than the shape of our body when we’re starting a new relationship
  • 35:30 – Should we be telling little girls that they’re beautiful?
  • 41:14 – How Trystan’s stay-at-home-dad partner manages his energy so he has enough left over for sex

In this episode, we mentioned the following resources:

The interviews for this podcast usually at least a half hour longer than we have space to fit into an episode. If you’d like to hear the full, unedited version of the interview including a much more in-depth conversation of Trystan’s experience giving birth to his son, join our community at Patreon.

Host – Leah Carey (Facebook, Instagram, YouTube, email)

Editor – Gretchen Kilby

Music by – Nazar Rybak