Leah talks about learning the difference between sensual and sexual touch, learning how to determine and voice boundaries, and her ongoing battle with body image issues.
Leah talks about healing from childhood messaging about her body and sexuality, learning to say “no”, and how women protect men’s feelings during heterosexual sex.
Lisa grew up as an elite-level gymnast, so she had a heightened awareness of her body in the world from an early age. Her first marriage was with a good man who she had no sexual chemistry with, and she ended up having many affairs. Today she is in a monogamous long-distance relationship where they are exploring new fantasies and finding lots of ways to keep the sex alive between visits!
Michelle was attracted to males early in life, but those feelings cooled and she came out as a lesbian. Her wife of 17 years is the love of her life, but their physical relationship has always been difficult. Recently Michelle met a man who brought her sexual feelings roaring back to life, causing her to question her sexuality.
Shasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband who she has been with for 20 years. Major themes include balance of power in heterosexual relationships, bedroom boredom in long-term relationship, and working to heal childhood issues as an adult.
Aimee is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, and married. Although Aimee considers herself monogamous, she has recently begun an affair with another man that her husband does not know about. We talk about this extensively in the second half of the episode. Major themes include: infidelity and seeking sex outside the marriage, lack of sexual communication, erectile dysfunction
Betsy had sex for the first time at age 27, and after a brief period of one-night-stands, married a man whose sexual desires were significantly different than hers. She says her naturally high libido was “beat right out of me.” Today, divorced and reclaiming her sexuality, Betsy is with a new partner and exploring her long-suppressed interest in BDSM.
Laina has one child and struggles with body image. She believes that nobody would want to have sex with her, and that her husband only does it because she’s his only option.