What do you want in the bedroom that you've never told anyone?
What's something about your own desire that makes you uncomfortable to say out loud?
What did you learn about sex or relationships that you're still unlearning?
What would you do in the bedroom if you knew for sure that no one would judge you?
What's a version of your sexual or relationship self that you don't allow yourself to express?
Is there an old fear or resentment that's quietly shaping your sex life now?
What would you have to give up — a belief, a habit, an old identity — to get the sex life you actually want?
What's a "should" about sex you're still carrying that you're not sure is true?
Is there a particular time during sex that you mentally check out? Where do you go?
What do you assume someone is thinking about you in bed while you're having sex?
What's the gap between the sex you're having and the sex you actually want?
What's something about your own arousal that still doesn't make sense to you?
What's not quite right about your sex life that you’re not sure how to name?
What's a pattern you keep repeating in sex or your relationship that you can see clearly but can't seem to stop?
What's a "should" you've talked yourself out of believing intellectually but haven't managed to shake in reality?
What do you know is true about your own desire that you still act like isn't?
Have you ever said yes when you meant no, or no when you meant yes?
Have you ever had an experience where you're not sure if you gave consent or not?
Have you ever had an experience where you gave consent but felt terrible about it after?
What's a conversation about sex you've been avoiding having with your partner? (P)
What would you have to give up in order to fix what's broken in your relationship? (P)
What's a resentment you're carrying that's affecting your relationships or sex life?
What keeps your relationship or sex from being completely fulfilling for you? (P)
What is the fight you have over and over with your partner? (P)
What's something you'd tell a friend without hesitation, but can't give yourself permission for?
What's something hurtful an ex once said that you internalized as a truth about yourself?
What's something sexual or relational you'd never judge someone else for, but still judge yourself for?
What conversations do you have with someone new before having sex the first time? (S/D)
