I loved the double-ended dildo – Stevie

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They’ve covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They’re now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship.

I kiss girls when I’m drunk – Mia

When culture tells you that women are sexy, but the church says same-sex attraction isn’t allowed, you might try to screw yourself straight. Mia shares how she went from stealing liquid courage-fueled girl-kisses to trying to prove herself straight to building lasting love with one of those kissed girls.

I was the ‘other woman’ – Mia

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being “the other woman” continues to affect her feelings about relationships. Then, she and Leah discuss how to navigate changing bodies, waning attraction, and mismatched libidos.

Romance and sex aren’t the same thing – Kristen

People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, bottoms up, laugh, cry, and eventually achieve perfect sex. But what if your life feels pretty perfect without it? 

I trained to be a dominatrix – Rain Dove

Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as “F.” For much of their life, they imagined that “F” stood for “Failure” to be properly “Female.” Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing.

ADHD and your orgasm – Catieosaurus

How can kink un-kink you? Cate talks about using kink as therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Also: the unseen effects ADHD can have on your sex life.