I loved the double-ended dildo – Stevie

Sex is hard enough to figure out without also having to wrangle with your gender. Stevie was raised as a little girl, but that never quite fit. They’ve covered a lot of ground to find clarity. They’re now happily married, while still exploring what they actually like in their body and who they want to be in their relationship.

I kiss girls when I’m drunk – Mia

When culture tells you that women are sexy, but the church says same-sex attraction isn’t allowed, you might try to screw yourself straight. Mia shares how she went from stealing liquid courage-fueled girl-kisses to trying to prove herself straight to building lasting love with one of those kissed girls.

I was the ‘other woman’ – Mia

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being “the other woman” continues to affect her feelings about relationships. Then, she and Leah discuss how to navigate changing bodies, waning attraction, and mismatched libidos.

Fingering and blow jobs were a sin – Hannah

Purity ring, wedding ring … cock ring?! After many conversations with people who have religious trauma around sexuality, it’s a pleasure to finally interview someone who grew up in conservative Christianity and has a healthy relationship with sex.

I trained to be a dominatrix – Rain Dove

Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as “F.” For much of their life, they imagined that “F” stood for “Failure” to be properly “Female.” Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways for designers of both masculine- and feminine-coded clothing.

What if “The One” isn’t enough? – Michelle

What happens when you discover the reason you’ve never been interested in sex is that you’ve been having the wrong kind of sex for your body? And that the mismatch at the root of your loving-but-sexless marriage is that your spouse doesn’t want that kind of sex?

ADHD and your orgasm – Catieosaurus

How can kink un-kink you? Cate talks about using kink as therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Also: the unseen effects ADHD can have on your sex life.

Exploring anal play – Julia

How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see.